Love

What is love? Have you ever really thought of that? I mean, it's easy to say you love your parents and family. You just grow up with them saying they love you, so automatically you love them back. It's even easy to love a best friend. You would do anything for them, and they would do anything for you. But I think our vision of real love is a little skewed, not the 'best friend' love, but the 'being in a relationship' love. I grew up seeing all of these girls on TV seeing a guy for the first time, falling in love completely at first glance and then the happy music would play and happily ever after. But you know what I never realized? Those sappy movies, the guy always loved the girls back. No questions, no reality. But this isn't a movie, this is real life. We grow up with automatic love, and fake love in the movies. How are we supposed to know what true love is? Every guy I've liked has just automatically gone in the love category after I've crushed on them and they crushed back. I just never realized what I was saying when I said 'Ohhh I love so and so!!'. Love is a strong word. I don't know if I've ever loved anyone in the relationship way, unconditionally, irrevocably, in love. There are a lot of people that I would do anything for. But really, I don't think love is just best friends, with something on top. I think that relationship love and best friend love are two completely different things. Now if two best friends start crushing on each other, how long does it take to be in love? Who knows! Love is something that is indescribable, so how in the world could you know when you are in it? Right now, all I know is that around him I get butterflies and instantly happy. Is that love? I really don't think so. I think my love for him as a best friend is mixing in with my crushing on him into a messy, complicated thing. I do like him. And he likes me. Do you need real love to be in a relationship that is based on a friendship? Eventually. Do you need it right away? Absolutely not. Loving is marriage. Liking is a relationship between a 10th grader and a 9th grader.... I don't think in high school you need love right away. The love of friendship needs to first boil down to just like for each other, and then build up to love. And I don't think it's possible to love someone so soon in a relationship. What someone in a high school relationship should do, is just be happy together. Wait. There's no need to grow up so soon and say 'Woot! I'm in love! Finally!'. You just need to slow down, and enjoy it. Be okay with just being in like. That's all you really know how to do at this point, and really all you can do. Now if you are in a relationship for like three years in high school, first WOW. Second, maybe then you are in love. Love needs time..... We need time....


Sorry this post is so confusing. Only one reader will actually get it. But it's probably so confusing because we are talking about love. Love is a confusing word.